What Does “Doing the Work” in Therapy Actually Mean?
Never before have therapy and mental health been more openly discussed than it is today. As mental health awareness becomes a mainstream topic, so too has its language entered everyday conversation. One phrase you’ll hear often is: “doing the work in therapy.” But what does that actually mean?
The word “work” carries different meanings for different people. For some, it may evoke effort and discipline; for others, it might feel overwhelming or even vague. In the context of therapy for personal growth, “doing the work” refers to more than just showing up—it’s about engaging in a deeper process of self-exploration, healing, and change. Let’s break it down.
1. Commitment
Therapy is a process that unfolds over time. Doing the work starts with a commitment—of time, emotional energy, and resources. This means regularly showing up, even on the hard days, with the intention to grow and move toward change. It’s a decision to prioritize your mental health and well-being and stick with the process, even when it feels uncomfortable.
2. Active Participation
It’s not just about being present—it’s about being engaged. This looks like showing up with honesty, curiosity, and a willingness to explore your inner world. It might mean asking tough questions, sitting with difficult emotions, or noticing patterns you hadn’t seen before. Authentic engagement with your therapist helps build trust and creates the foundation for meaningful progress.
3. Integration into Daily Life
Therapy doesn’t stop when the session ends. Over time, you’ll begin to recognize patterns, develop insights, and learn new tools for managing emotions and relationships. “Doing the work” means practicing these skills outside the therapy room—whether it’s setting boundaries, noticing your triggers, or challenging unhelpful thoughts. This real-world application is where true transformation begins to take root.
Therapy for emotional wellness can look different for everyone. There are many styles, methods, and approaches—but at its core, therapy is about relieving emotional pain, increasing self-awareness, and helping you live a more fulfilling life. The therapist you work with matters, but the most important factor is your willingness to take ownership of your growth. The therapeutic process can be unpredictable, surprising, and even transformative—but only as deep as you’re willing to go.
In my own practice, “doing the work” is a collaborative, goal-oriented, and creative process. I strive to attune to where you are in the present moment, and together we identify the areas you’d like to focus on. Depending on your needs, our work may include talk therapy, mindfulness practices, and somatic therapy techniques designed to expand awareness, bring clarity, and help you feel grounded. My goal is to provide you with practical tools and deeper insight so you can build a life that feels meaningful and fulfilling.
